Erroneous Zones of life ....

What are Erroneous Zones ?

Zones which we must avoid and move out
These zones slow you and postpone your achievement of true potential
These zones drag you into a helpless , anxious, sad and painful journey of life making you believe that life is tough and someone else controls your destiny

In his book "Your Erroneous zone " Dr Wayne Dyer shortlists and explores the most common erroneous zones in which most of us get into ..

He dives deeper into each erroneous zone and disects them in 3 ways

1)  Understanding each erroneous zone
2) why do we stick to them inspite of being unhappy and having a self sabotaging effects on our life experience
3) what can be done to avoid or move away from them

The erroneous zones he explored are

1) Giving charge of our well being to others
2) Puting others ahead over our ownself 
3) Living life as per the labels of personality , rituals , likes and dislikes of others and society
In short needing approval for survival
4)  Trapped in past and emotions build over past life
5) Sticking to familiar zones of life and avoiding unknown zones
6) playing blame game the ultimate saviour and getting into viscous circle of should and must activites in life inspite of personal dislikes for them
7) Being imprisoned in the concept of justice and expectation of a fair life and playing victim game
8) Procrastination the self deceiving habit
9) Dependency attitude
10) Anger zone

I could relate with each zone personally and have gone through many of them and trapped in some of them myself

My personal favourites and aaha !  moments from this book are :

a) Clearity on right vs wrong
b) Justice seeking concept
c) elaboration on thought and feeling
d) futility of compulsions in life
f) labels given by others society and accepted by us and living our life to fulfil them

You see...

 Some books enhance your knoweldge 

 Some widen your perspectives

Some stir you and compel you to relook life and transform

Some inspire  and motivate you

I have come to this book after reading and pondering on hundreds of books on self exploration and hence was already more or less exposed to these zones and their damaging impact on human beings

For me the concept in this book were a  reassurance  that these are the Zones which dilute the power and magnanimity of being human

And certainly they deepened by perspectives on some of the concepts of these zones 

A compelling read to success hunters and wellbeing seekers in life

Bless the soul of the author 

What to say of these times ? Covid period

You see life is not linear

Human mind always favours and loves linearity

It wants all in its control and always all has to add up

But Mathematics of life doesn't add 2 and 2 to 4

So

Sometimes fear will help you survive and grow

Sometimes fearlessness will help you survive and thrive. 

We think we know when to be fearful or fearless

But only in hindsight we come to know what was needed fearfulness or fearlessness

So its a grey area of life which we take granted as white and black due to blurring of our vision by our ego

See our mind can be trained to work with our senses or without them

The  situation which we are going through is more hazier than ever

We want to see something but we are able to see exactly opposite

We are in a perfect illusionary situation as we are always...

But due to danger and threat to.life we are aware about it this time

So whether I speak in favour of fear or against in both cases I may appeal to some and disappoint others

Coz our mind is most wavering this time and we have lost all our supporting beliefs and concepts of health and life ..our pychologocal bunkers of certainties are blasted in and out by the pandemic...

Its time to witness and encourage your mind and feelings to constantly be in favour of your wellbeing

Its perfect time to Witness without reacting too much on either side

Our senses  have enough exposure of threat  to our  survival  and dealing with them without any evidence is the task at hand ..

Basically our fears are due to our attachments
Without attachments the spice of life also vanishes
We haven't reached to a state of being of enjoying the blandness of life ...

You see when you reach one side of life other side looks different
And when you reach that side of life then again your earlier side looks different

The crux of life is 

To enjoy and experience the difference and variety of life
But we waste our life in comparing the different sides 

Dealing with empty heads in Power/ Authority

Firstly an ideal situation is to not have empty heads in power/ Authority 

But life is far from ideal and full of contradictions 

Its really unclear whether some become  empty heads after getting in power / Authority or they reach there as empty heads.

Nevertheless it is certainly a unpleasant experience to have a empty head in power and authority over you  when you have a sound,  thinking evolved mind,

But its not an delusional or hopeless situation but rather a tough or tricky and frustrating surely.

So this puts some of us or many of us if I say so liberaly at cusp of a situation where we have to deal with them or avoid empty heads in power.

Whatever we choose to do either deal or avoid but we cannot ignore them .

Aligning with them is the only solution but without loosing your head becoming empty head yourself .

Don't argue , avoid challenging  them in any situation when engaging one to one or in groups with them.

Attempt to understand their point of view however pointless or shallow it may seem .

Your Art of communication is  put to test when you are dealing with empty heads in power/ authority 

Any psychological threat from you will agitate , aggravate, irritate them and they may turn against you .

However I am not advocating slavery or total yes manship but a middle way to.deal with them 

Its very easy to get frustrated while dealing with them . Hence a  high level of self motivation  and broad perspective is required on matters dealing with them 

Patience is key in order to successfully engage with them 

Its rather easy using them to your advantage if you win their trust. 

Finding out what is imp to them and making  them dependent on you in that regards is key to success.

If you have a choice you may avoid their association but there is no guarantee that once you avoid them in one situation you will not encounter them in your life again..

A million dollar question which you have in your mind while reading this blog is...

How do empty heads get into a position of authority / power ?

There is no template answer for this question though some pointers ..

Are we  fools to allow them to reach such position by our lack of vision ?

Then how  Mr Trump was a popular choice for presidential position and then most hated him and voted out on 4 years 

But one must understand that ...

Human being is a very complex and intriguing being and evolving since many centuries and its difficult to understand the self destructive ways in which we keep dealing with our own life 

Empty heads have a knack of impressing people with their charm , perception managing skills and winning trust of people inspite of their hollowness or severe short handed ness for the position or authority   

Their core strength is alignment , positioning themselves in the spot of favoritism and as a person who can provide solution to all problems. 

They surrender unconditionally to their authorities to get into power 

Their values are very clear ...

 To impress at any cost even if there words are hollow and lack substance and weight. 

They cuddle the most important thing in human beings life that is EGO of people who have power or authority over them.

You got to manage empty heads in power/ authority because they certainly are around and have impact on your life and quality of life .

Americans managed Mr Trump for 4 years then at appropriate time ditched him or he got himself ditched by his deeds.

So empty heads about whom we are talking here are in all strata of life and sections of life

Personal ,  corporate  , social and political life 

Many may shrug that calling somebody a  empty head itself is a subjective thing and cannot be generalised 

But we aren't talking about those subjective supposed empty heads  for every individual 

The empty heads in power/ Authority in discussion here are those who are designated as empty heads collectively  by most of the  people around them if not all .

We must deal with them by uniting together with an idea that if they want to continue in power / authority then they have to fill their heads with some wisdom or else they will be shown way out of the circle respectfully as shown to many in history...